Monday, September 22, 2008

Preparing your child to become a big brother or sister

So, you’re belly has begun to swell and your child is starting to understand that there is another baby on the way. In most instances, this news is greeted with both sadness and delight. One minute, your child can’t wait to be a big brother or sister and the next instant, they are throwing a tantrum and angry at the thought of sharing all the attention. Sibling rivalry usually starts right after, (or even before) the arrival of the second child. The older child often becomes aggressive, “acts out” or even regresses. It’s important to prepare your older child when you know you are expecting a new baby. Kids need to know what to expect, and they need time to adjust. So what is a pregnant, hormonal mother to do?

There are a number of things you can do to make the transition easier on your child. The first and most important of tasks is to include your child in the process of having a baby. Allow your child to “own the role” of being a big brother or big sister. Allow your child to pick out something special for the new baby like a toy or decoration for the baby’s room.

Discuss changes that will occur ahead of time. Let your child know about the things that will be different so there are no big surprises once the baby arrives.

Check with your hospital to see if they offer sibling tours or classes designed to help your little one adjust to the transition.


Tape a picture of your child to the baby’s crib. It will help make the big sister or big brother feel important.

Always include your child in helping with the baby so they don’t feel left out and most importantly, set aside special time every day to focus on your child. Giving your older attention and focus will make him (or her) feel loved and reassured.

A mixed reaction to the new baby is normal and to be expected, so take a deep breath and give yourself a break! As we all know by now, Change Is always strange at first!

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